Over-ridding that overworked and overwhelmed feeling

Of late, I have been heavily observing my friends and family around me with what their lifestyles demand of them.

We are into the 3rd month of the 12 month year and I am noticing a common pattern. They are al already tired and craving a “holiday”.

It’s the world we live in today right???

WRONG!

It’s only the world we live in today if we allove w our selves to believe it’s the only way.

See here’s the thing
I understand this feeling oh too well.
In fact I will share with you my last “event” from when I was Overworked & overwhelmed.

I was 31 years old.
I was in a JOB working for a globally recognised brand in recruitment .
I was operating a blue collar / temp desk.
I was one of the top billers in my region and operated an average of 100 labourers and trades men over about 15 clients.
I was a new mum (my son was 3.
I was juggling between 60 to 90 hour weeks.
while trying to figure out motherhood as a solo parent.

My son got to know his day care teachers better than me . I would drop him and 6am each morning and not collect him at 9pm some evenings, from a gf who would pick him up for me when she picked her kids up.

I remember the grind SO well. and I remember the spiral of de pressed emotion that it sent me into.

I could not ENJOY being a mummy.
I could not enjoy being a successful corporate woman
I had no hope for any type of relationship
I had zero time for friends and social events
I started to lose my identity
And I began operating like a machine.
I felt SO LOST
And then finally when my body couldn’t take anymore. I collapsed and was taken to hospital with pure exhaustion and I was kept in hospital for 3 days.
I was living in a different country &
I had no close family nearby. &very few people to rely on.

It was the turning point for me where I decided
I didn’t know what
I didn’t know when
But I would only ever work that hard again if it were to build my dreams and my legacy.

So I started seeking out SOLUTIONS that would help me to Grow Myself into the Identity I needed to be in order to execute my ideas and passions.

Did it happen over night . NO

Was it a sudden realisation of exactly what . NO

Was I committed to doin what ever it took to unfold the answers .. YES

Am I EXACTLY where I want to be right now .. NO

Am I willing to keep doin what ever it takes to succeed while remaining in flow, and create my legacy for my family .. FREAKEN HELL YES!

Am I SO happy and loving the journey with ease and flow .. FREAKEN HELL YES !

See here’s what I know/

In order to change your external reality
You Must start with SHIFTING your internal beliefs.
even if it’s only a fraction!

Your perception will be a direct reflection of your reality!

So how do you pull it off?
It starts with making one OVERRIDDING commitment: You must commit to intentionally managing your time so you have a fighting chance of showing up at your best–

your most inspired, your most productive, and your most “in the flow.”

Here’s 5 tips on how you can make a start with overriding your overwhelm and bring in more happiness.

1. Ask, “Is this really necessary?”
Challenge your basic assumptions about your regular habits. Do you need to have that meeting? Do you need to create that new way? Do you need to respond to that email? Do you need to scroll social media? I’m many cases you don’t, but you do anyway simply because that’s what you’ve always done.

2. Understand and set your own flow.
We all work differently. Some like to hit the ground running. Others like to start the day by reflecting, meditating, and thinking. Some like to work into the night.

The key is to understand not just how you like to work but also how you work best. You might like to work late at night, but if you’re tired or frazzled by a long day, you won’t perform at your best.

3. Set boundaries
No one can or should be on 24/7. Yet you probably feel you are–because you allow yourself to be.

Set some boundaries: the time you’ll stop working, certain times you’ll do things with your family, certain times you won’t take calls, etc. Then let people know those boundaries.

Other people won’t respect your time unless you respect your time first.

4.. Give yourself time for unconscious thoughts
This is why I journal all the time!
It sometimes makes NO SENSE.
But by Giving yourself time for unconscious thought is key to making smart decisions when you face complex problems. Research shows people tend to make their best decisions when they have an opportunity to review the data and facts and then focus their thought on something else for a while.

5. BE honest when you say yes or no to things.
You can’t say yes to everything. (Well, you can, but you won’t get everything you say yes to done–so in effect you’re still saying no.)

Remember you have the power to make the changes necessary for you to improve your reality if that’s what you want.

I love you
Marissa xx

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