I HAVE BEEN ASKED A LOT LATELY WHY I AM NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP.

This is a question that has shown up a lot in my life and it truly intrigues me.

See heres the thing,
I may not be in a relationship right now.
but I absolutely understand
“HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP”
And that is the only kind of relationship I will tolerate now.

To take you back a little bit.
I have never been one to jump from relationship to relationship.
(and there is no judgement toward others who have)
Just for me. I’m quite the opposite.
Once I choose my partner. and he chooses me. and the trust and love is in place.
I am fiercely loyal.
I am deeply committed.
It’s that soul level love that has no limits.
And I am ALL IN.

I have only been in 4 serious relationships in my entire adult life.
(most lasted longer than 3 years).
But after the disconnection in each of them.
It would take me a good 12 months if not more to recover.
Because I used to struggle to let go.
(Even if it was a destructive or heavy separation)

So why would it take me that length of time to let go?

Well a few reasons.
What I have figured out is that I used to love with attachment (which is not how love was designed)
Mainly because like most humans.
We find it so difficult to let go of the past because of the way we link emotion to information.
You see information with emotion makes an indelible impression. And as a highly feminine woman, I use to attach emotion to anything that impacted me in a significant way, especially if it caused me pain or suffering.
(typical human wiring).

But I have healed much of this over the past 5 years and with all the growth and expansion in myself.
Of course I feel ready.
Of course I am excited by the idea of a healthy, long lasting companionship.
Of course I am excited to have a soul connection thats out of this planet.
Of course I am excited to have a partner in shine who supports my crazy ways, visions and growth to be the best version I can be.
Of course I am excited to have that special someone to support me emotionally and who ALLOWS me to do the same for them.
Of course I am excited to experience a level of intimacy that is so sacred.
Of course I am excited to show someone the capacity in which I have to love with no fear.
Of course I am excited to experience equality in love and respect with this special someone.

And that is EXACTLY why I am so happy, enjoying the journey as it unfolds, being present in each experience and trusting that I won’t settle for anything but the best and NOTHING LESS.

So if like me, you are not willing to settle.
And prefer to focus on aligning yourself so when the one shows up.. your ready for them

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>HERE IS YOUR CLUE<<<<<<<<<<<<< What I have firmly discovered is there are many kinds of love. But first it is that deep relationship with self that will shape what shows up. And second Its choosing which type of love you are willing to settle for. IF you really want to call in that long lasting metaphysical boundless, limitless love that is out of this world. YOU first must commit to doing the inner work. That innerwork is a daily practise. You must then get your heart and spirit back into alignment. that alignment is also a daily practise. You must then 1000-00000 percent commit truly love yourself. again this is a DAILY PRACTISE. YOU then must get super freaken clear on what you really want. and be OPEN to RECIEVING what you are asking for. There is so much available to you. that is just waiting to flow in. #WHATIF you committed to choosing YOURSELF first? (and believed that is not a selfish act) #WHATIF you said YES I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH (and truly believed it) #WHATIF you weren’t afraid to let go of what doesn’t serve you for your greatest good (and were able to walk away in love) #WHATIF you actually gave yourself permission to heal? (and opened up to the possibility of experiencing fresh LOVE at its most purest form) #WHAT IF you committed to asking for more ease and flow in your experiences. (and allowing that to flow in?) #WHATIF you said yes to the journey and and stopped trying to control the destination. #WHAT IF……..you stand with me and stay open to love and possibility that you can absolutely have ANYTHING your heart desires? LOVE MARISSA x Psst... it takes massive courage to grow up and become who you truly are. But baby just IMAGINE how life would look if you found some. #whatifproject #comingsoon Photo Credit | Jorgeo Canales