Do You Struggle to know the difference Between Feeling Selfish and Choosing Self-Care ?

Well this beautiful creation here is not only my son, he is my MIRROR REFLECTION. And being solely responsible for raising him as a king day in and day out. I certainly used to.

So if you are a parent, guardian, partner, wife, husband, carer, aunty, uncle, brother, sister, son, daughter or human, most of you will suffer with finding the balance of this. and that is why you need to read this.

It was only when I became a mother, I truly began to notice the difference between being selfish and choosing self-care. Especially when it came to prioritising what was most important when choosing where to place my energy.

You see here’s the thing. There’s more than a fine line between being selfish and being loving to yourself. Yet some people confuse the two and use it to get more from you.
When you’ve been a people pleaser, you might feel selfish for doing things that make you happy when others need you.
That’s how I used to think!
But here’s what I know . Self-love is the most unselfish gift you can give yourself!
It’s your responsibility as a human, to treat yourself with as much love as possible.

As a mum, women, daughter, friend, who came from a place of self-loathing for most of her life, I can attest that when you care for yourself first, you end up having a lot more to give others.
There’s no way I could do what I do now, coaching others, parenting , loving others and holding space for everyone I meet that is willing to grow. if I did not chose me first. Every single day .

It’s practical, which is why the heart gets nourishment before the rest of the body.
And that’s why I am so committed to Coaching wellbeing and Conscious thinking. You must first self-nourish with love and meet YOUR needs to have more authentic value for others. Especially your children.

When we put the needs of others first, we’re weaker. And That’s is why Loving yourself, and making YOU a priority doesn’t make you selfish!! In fact it’s quite the opposite. Self-love requires healthy doses of putting YOU first.

And this is why I was inspired to share this message. about the difference between selfish and self-care.
I went to sleep last night SETTING my intentions, that
I would have the most restful night✔️
That My body and cells would be reignited✔️
That I would recharge to wake with highest vibes of energy✔️
That I would have mental clarity about how to create a day that was the best day EVER.

So when I woke. I had this serene sense of pure bliss.
There was a silence and peace that instantly bought me into the present moment.
I can’t quite describe it. But although I woke alone.
I knew I was not alone.
I embraced the feeling and the moment.
I felt supported, safe and full of hope.
I loved the feeling so much that I hit my yoga mat and ended up doing the whole practise with my eyes closed.
I wanted to embody every positive thought I had.
I wanted to elevate my gratitude energetically and
embody every inhale and release ever exhale.
I found myself, smiling and tapping into my imagination so deeply.
it was freaken magical.
I then committed to returning back to this state of wellbeing as often as I could, because there is something so powerful about acknowledging that Energy when you feel it

I look at the miracle in my son and I see the miracle in me.

Breathing for each other
Every breath

And that is what fires me up, and why I have this laser focus on keeping harmony and laughter as my highest priority when I am around children.

It’s that youthful spirit and enthusiasm that reminds me never to forget my inner child.

You just can’t possibly give to others from a space of authenticity if your soul feels empty and you do not feel full.

So heres 7 tips on how I self care.

1. Start a compliments file.
Document the positive things people say about you to read them later.

2. Change up the way you make decisions.
Start listening to whats in your heart not in your head.
when you get out of your head, life feels so less heavy.
and you can tap into what really makes you feel goo.

3. Go be with nature even in your back yard. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.
I do this at least once a day. it reminds you that there is something much bigger than you and allows you to put things into perspective.

4. HAVE FUN. laugh hard out! Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity) several times throughout your day.
honestly when I set a reminder on my phone to remember to be playful. i instantly relax. Life is not meant to be so serious!

5. Create a intentional habit, and routinise something small in your life by doing it in the same way each day— (for example my yoga every morning is what i have as a non negotiable).

6. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes YOU happy.

7. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself from the constant bings of social media and email. and just be PRESENT to your environment.

Why not start being a little more selfish today, so you can explore the deep power in loving yourself first, so you can openly give more.

Love and above always
Marissa.XX

P.S I am SO EXCITED I AM going to be LAUNCHING A
‘7 day Womens Wellbeing Workshop” KIcking off in April.its all ONLINE, so you can be anywhere in the world.

IT WILL COVER
– Self-care methods
– Forgiveness strategies
– Breath work
– Intention setting
– Self Healing methods
– Experitenial energy shifts
– Me as your coach

and so much more!

IT WILL BE AN INTENSE 7 DAYS. BUT HONEY IT WILL BE WORTH IT.

Email me for more details or comment below IM IN. XX