So although I now choose to believe I am abundant in all areas of my life and am deserving to receive. Up until recently I was challenged when it came to making my money work for me, because, I have been blocking my own abundance. Through a few different unconscious energy blocks.

Thats right, I have always been incredibly blessed and resourceful to make money. But then there has been that invisible whole in my pocket. haha

CAN YOU RELATE?

Well if so keep reading cause you will more than likely resonate with this.

The inspiration behind this blog came to me yesterday after Jordyn an I were invited to one of my new beautiful soul sisters place Sabrina Smeaton to hang out.

On our way she said she had a surprise for us.

When we arrived, not only was her home exquisite. there was a beautiful pool and private pier with a boat and jetski which she said she would take us on around the canals of the Gold coast.

My initial feeling was excitement and gratitude. but then I felt my old DEFAULT patterns and thoughts rise, of not feeling worthy enough to enjoy it.

Now don’t get me wrong, I have been fortunate enough to have been exposed to a lot of financial wealth in my life.
It’s just never been mine hahah
And what i found so interesting about yesterday that was on some crazy unconscious level, I realised my “lack” in money or there of, has been a result of my ‘lack’ in self worth.

Again this is my ‘OLD’ DEFAULT. BUT it reared its ugly head.

And although this life is never about the money.

I am going to talk about this topic because it is something I am experieincing in my reality right now.

That topic is debt.

But before I go into that
I want to share some truths with you.

I remember how it use to trigger me when a ‘rich” person would drive past me in a flash car.
or we would drive past those families with bright shiny cars and object.
My ego would be like. OMG what a show off. or pfffft .
What snobs.! y
Yes all those ridiculous unconscious thoughts ‘poor’ people have.

See here’s the thing.
I am fully aware I am rich in love.
But I have never been “rich” in money.
I have always lived a wonderful life, but always been in debt for it.

anyone feeling me??

I mean when I got real with myself a while back. I realised I have actually always being “poor” in finances because UP UNTIL NOW, my blueprint and self worth energetically was not a high frequency!

See heres the thing I’m learning about people with money.
(not just the ones who tick up all there assets).
The ones that actually understand money and the power of how money is actually just a frequency and vibration.

I MEAN so many of you (like me) are probably capable of making money. but then what happens to it??
(unseen hole in the pocket) hahahahah

Anyway. I have been working on my money mindset for some time now, yet still have lessons to learn around money.
So I have committed to myself to understand the difference between the behaviours of “rich” people and “poor” people

And you know what I have discovered.

IT’S ALL AN INTERNAL GAME!

LIKE FOR REAL!

I notice that the rich people I personally know have developed a habit of “getting rich slowly”.
and there are two rules they all seem to live by.
no.1 Don’t lose money
no. 2 if you ever feel tempted, refer back to number one!

Yes Its not actually a big secret.

They commit, they focus and they achieve financial independence
and of course they develop a millionaire mindset.
They learn to respect and love money.
They see that money is never meant to be ‘held on to”
They are forever investing and re investing.
They are forever taking risks
They are forever looking at ways to contribute on a bigger scale
and most importantly they are are forever following their hearts.

Now I’m definitely not saying all rich people have good intentions with there money.
but the rich people I admire do.

So today my thoughts were filled with admiration.
and not because of all the shiny material things.
becasue I am now clear that the only way to hold onto money
in a honest and honourable way is to become a better version of yourself.

So after noticing my Old default rise.
i quickly shut it down and
Instead of feeling like I didn’t belong.
I made a conscious decision to sit in this boat, in my higher frequency, flow into their energy and trust in the equality of all of us.

It was really cool, what i experienced after that.
There was zero judgment. there was so much celebration.
I guess its because i understand what it takes to be in a position where you are not in debt these days.

Becasue lets dive a little deeper on this right now.
Debt. is one of those stressful things in life that keeps us up at night.
It often causing depression and anxiety for tens of millions of people.

So because of the money mindset I am so committed to embodying so I can call my abundance into my life and I can easily give back to the people less fortunate than me and to the causes I deeply believe in.

Here are 3 key steps i am going to live by
and if you are in debt and as sick of it as me. then i invite you to join me.

1. CUT BACK ON BORROWING
It’s simple: the more debt you owe, the harder it is to finish paying it off. Don’t let spending get over your head — start saving! It also helps to ask yourself, anytime you are want to purchase something, do you need it, or do you want it? If you “want” it, reconsider your decisions as you don’t want to end up short in money when your credit card payment is due.

2. REDUCE YOUR CREDIT CARD LIMITS

Each time a credit score application is requested, your credit drops by a small amount. However, over time, all those inquiries can significantly decrease your credit score and affect your chances of receiving low interest.
These days, applying for a credit card is only a few clicks away, but being approved for one is an entirely different story. In case you’re unfamiliar on how the credit scores are scaled.

3. CREATE AN EMERGENCY FUND

Here’s a lifehack that most never think of doing: start an emergency savings account and fill it up quickly until you reach at least $1000. Why? Well, you never know when you might be out of a job, or something expensive in your car breaks. So it’s better safe than sorry to have backup money, in case you’re unable to pay off your credit card bills.

I am certain there is much more for me to learn. but I am more committed than ever to turn this money relationship around and bring into fruition the absolute prosperity that is my brith right.

Who’s with me??

Love you!
Marissa

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Then let me ask you,
Does this leave you ever feeling unappreciated?
Do you feel a little or a lot of resentment for it?

Well honey stay with me, because this has been one of the toughest lessons I have personally had to learn.

THE LAW OF GIVING & RECEIVING.

You see giving comes incredibly naturally to me and I feel almost HOME when I have an opportunity I GIVE.

why?

Well as I embark deeper onto my life path and the soul purpose that feels in alignment for me.
I have discovered my core gift is giving.

The capacity in which I have to love, give, empower, encourage and hold space for others is magnified and it comes to me very effortlessly.

But here’s the thing about the universal laws

You can not throw it out of balance in such a way where you are ALWAYS the giver and never the receiver.

It’s the law of circulation and it is necessary for you to honour this law so you don’t block your own abundance!

How do I know??

Because I’m in it baby!
I have spent years and years giving from a total space of conscious authenticity.
BUT little did I understand in my unconscious mind I was still creating expectations on some level.

You see one of two things have repeatedly happen in my life when I would give so much.

1) The person/s would run. Because they could not embody the capacity in which I was giving.
It wasn’t always material, it is energy, words, time. And then not knowing how to return it Created uncomfortable energy for them so they would run or disappear in some way.

Do you know what this would leave me experiencing?

Either A shadow of Rejection or a shadow of abandonment.

2) my giving would be received over and over and over and they would stay taking taking taking

Do you know what this would leave me experiencing on a unconscious level?

The shadow of resentment.

Now let me remind you again.
I was not “giving” consciously with expectations.

But guess what. I still experienced these low vibration feelings on an unconscious level.

And yup you got it.

NONE OF THESE SHADOWS SERVED ME LIVING INTO MY HIGHEST GOOD.

And believe it they won’t be serving you either.

Over time WHAT do you think happens to a person that only gives and doesn’t learn to receive?

YOU BURN OUT. YOU FEEL DRAINED & EXPERIENCE EXHAUSTION.

You see because I personally have not always allowed the receiving part to happen with ease.
This has been blocking my own abundance, in love, money, business, and more dreams.

But I’m gentle on myself about it
Because I understand we all have wounds and beliefs and you just don’t know what you don’t know.

So after Years of experiencing and feeling disappointed, hurt, heartbreak, rejection, abandonment.

I am so excited to take radical responsibility for the part I played in these moments. And continue working on flowing into my life path and operating from a higher version.

So today I wrote myself a letter that I commit to reading every day.

The best lesson in life I can share with you as a messenger of LOVE is

You can not give from an empty cup.
You must must must fill your own cup first
And you must must must learn to receive Deon others “if” it is a gift from the heart:

That way you serve from a cup that is overflowing.
You become love and you can give and receive love with no expectations

Dear Marissa

Thank YOU for choosing to be here for another brand new day on this planet.
I love you
I celebrate you,
I feel you.
I see you.

I appreciate all the work you have done up to this moment.

Thank you for your creativity, your abilities. Your gifts, your dedication and your discipline .

I appreciate all the visions you have already brought forth and manifested.

Thank you legs and feet for holding me tall and strong and getting me to this moment.

Thank you hips for your flexibility and support in movement.

Thank you ribs for protecting all of my organs.

Thank you shoulders for carrying all the weight you have up until this moment.

Thank you for opening your heart and the magnitude in which you shine love empowerment and healing onto others.

Thank you for choosing light.

Love Your higher self.
Marissa

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I personally don’t like using language that focuses on the negative connotation of a serious situation or mass problem.

If I could I would rename it I would call it
“SELF-LOVE DAY”

Why?

Because since I was a young child. (Like my beautiful son, neice and nephew in this pic.)
I have experienced intense bullying, verbally. Energetically, mentally and physically, and it lasted right through to my mid teens.

Based on what I have learned in my more recent years about human behaviour. It is clear people who feel the need to bully someone else in any kind of behaviour or manner? is a direct reflection of their own insecurities and beliefs.

So if we were to teach more positive connotations around kindness to one another and the power on showing love, compassion, appreciation and acceptance. I believe the healing of this global issue would be more powerful.

I want to share a little story with you about my personal experience with bullying and the impact it has had in my life.

So if you have time, I invite you to stay with me. And none of what I’m sharing is for pity so please hold space trusting I have healed from this

I was 10 years old when “bullying” started in my life.
I was always well loved prior to this experience. But with my parents separating and starting a new school in a new town, I was wide open to being “the new girl”.

At first everyone was kind, they seemed to invite me into their well established “circles”.
But as the weeks progressed and I began to shine my talents in the field in athletics, netball and swimming and in the classroom in maths and art. I quickly learned about bullying.

The girls who were the “popular” girls quickly started leaving me out at lunch time.

The girls on the court who were used to being the “best” quickly began shoving me around.

The girls who were used to been the best in the class room quickly started turning their back on me and whispering behind my back.

This “bullying” was more about rejection and at that stage I had not experienced this so it was so painful to pass through.

Once Mum knew the truth behind how I was been treated we changed schools again.

The next school was college. And as excited as I was to start I had no idea what was around the corner.

You see I am of our native blood to our land in New Zealand. I am Maori. And I was very proud to Be.

At this new school they had a bilingual unit where they practised Maori kappa haka and tikanga(which I what I grew up with).
BUT the day I went to walk in to join. I was blocked by 3 other girls who were already in the unit and told i wasn’t welcome because I was a “plastic Maori”. I was 13 years old at this moment and they didn’t know me. I was raised at the marae and spent my whole child hood immersed in tikanga.
I stood there in shock like wtf. And I went to walk around them. Then they grabbed me and threw me on the ground in the front of the Marae.

They stood over me and told me if I tried to come back they would “bash” me.

I was so freaken scared of these girls.
I started faking illnesses to avoid going to school. But eventually Mum caught onto me.

Each day I would walk to school on my own, these girls were waiting at the gate. They would shoulder barge me and push me around.

It got to a point a teacher would escort me from class to class.

In hindsight I wish I stood up to them, but besides dealing with my parents separating and family breaking up. I had no courage to stand up to these bullies:

I went from a A+ student to a C+.
My passion for school was lost, my passion for sports and doing my best was gone because I NEVER wanted to draw attention to myself.

I quit swimming.
I quit athletics and I quit netball:
All the things I absolutely loooved.

I started to hang out with a group of kids who wagged school , drank alcohol and well you can prob fill in the gaps.

I then started sneaking out of my window on weekend nights. Until one day Mum caught me.

I remember not giving AF. I was lost, I was so unsure of my identity and I just thought life sucked.

Mum decided to send me back to my dads in hope I would not be bullied.

So I started ANOTHER school at age 14.

Do you think the bullying stopped.

NO!

Once again a group of “popular” girls started been nice to me, until one of the guys they liked , decided he liked me.
WELL WHAT A CRIME!

The jealousy and insecurities of this group of girls was fierce and their actions were cruel.

They beat me up in the bathrooms, in the car park, they would prank call my home at random hour of the night and in class throw stuff at me.

I began to hate school.
I felt alienated.
I Was so confused
I stated questioning what I did so wrong
In the end I got such a big bash, police were involved and I chose to leave school.

The worst thing about all of this
Is I never spoke up about it.
I wouldn’t even tell the police who hurt me.
I was petrified as one of the girls told me her brother had a gun and would use it if she ever got in trouble.

I chose to leave school at age 14.
Because I didn’t see any other option.
I began a course that taught me basic computer skills. Once I completed this course I got my first “job” as a receptionist at a home building company.

I remember been sooooo excited.
My own job and paid work.
But on the 5th day, my admin manager came out to me and told me I should just go pump petrol cause I’m wasting her time always asking questions

As you can imagine I felt unworthy.
I felt useless and I actually questioned it she was right.

This was obviously a different type of bullying.
But here’s the thing
No matter if it’s
School yard bullying.
Social media bullying
Work place bullying
In home bullying

The impact this has on ones mindset can end in a life time of suffering or even worse, death.

This s*it needs to !

When I read about young children taking their lives because of bullies, my heart breaks.

I could share so many more experiences that bleed into my adult life but Its not necessary. I think you get the picture.

See here’s the thing, when I reflect back now, I smile. I have found forgiveness in it all and I am just so grateful that every day, I chose to keep moving forward and trust in my dreams.

I now always choose my light, and I love shining bright because it gives others permission to do the same!! (Especially our little ones)!

If you are someone who suffers bullying or knows of this happening around you.

Don’t be a by stander:
Teach your children, and young ones the power in shining bright and speaking up.

Be an encourager, the world has enough critics.

Sending love and light to you all.

Love Marissa

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Do you believe this to be your truth??

Well I do!
And the magnificent thing about choosing this belief. Is that you can then trust your time is never wasted, because It’s a part of your journey that you will someday understand is such an important time of grieving and growing.

You will see that you were in a space of growth and although your heart was breaking, your life was changing.

If you have been following my journey
You will know I went deep down the rabbit hole with
Limiting beliefs in my self worth.

But baby you better believe it that I’m coming through the other side!
So why not start now and develop the self-discipline to practice the things that allow you stay connected to YOUR own heart, spirit and soul?

Because while I believe a strong mindset is imperative to achieving success in all areas of life. It is no question that the most aligned way to deal with the challenges life throws your way and be resilient enough to come up with fast solutions , is when you can hear what’s right for your highest good.

So what are the actions you can take right now to create and embody more courage ease, flow, grace & confidence?

1. STOP BEING REACTIVE

Overreacting will only lead you down a path to make bad decisions that nothing good will come from it.

2. ACCEPT PRESENT MOMENT REALITY

Accept the way things are and the way people are. Stop blaming external things or people for the results in your life. Many people make a habit of blaming others for all their current reality.

3. TAKE RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY

There is always somewhere along your journey you would have had a gentle nudge to do, or not do something , but you ignored the signals and your results have reflected those decisions.

4. BE GENTLE ON YOU

You are after all living in a world that is operating prodominantly 3 dimensionally. You can only behave based on your current beliefs and experiences.

5. STAY OPEN TO “FEEDBACK”

I myself have upgraded fast and evolved in my consciousness with more ease, when I have stayed open to feedback that comes from a space of love.

If someone or more than one person gives you feedback that you may initially disagree with. Most likely that’s the stuff you will probably want to pay most attention to if of course you want to be your best.

6. KEEP MOVING

As you call In more joy, happiness and aligned lifestyle choices. You will be tested by a higher power to determine just how badly you want something.

And as simple as it sounds to keep choosing what’s in your heart, your ego will most often make you question everything you are dreaming about and you might fall over but just get back up and keep moving!

7. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

If there is anyone in this entire universe that deserves to be backed . It’s you baby!!

the abundance in love, joy and prosperity you desire is your birth right and the only person blocking it , is you!

8. MEDITATE .

You always here this from successful leaders and influencers, SO there’s a massive clue right!!

There are so many different ways you can meditate, but it’s the stillness, the identity in which you value yourself by and the discipline to find time to be with your own spirit and thoughts that’s most powerful.

HOW AM I SO AWARE OF THIS??

WELL I am in the thick of practising all of this myself right now! And I am excited to invite you to come join me tomorrow evening on a Facebook LIVE where I will be revealing ALL the low brights & high lights.

This is going to be the most empowering live I believe I have ever done: not because I am right or know more than you: but through recent relationships and experiences I have a new level of understanding. And how I am landing so firmly on my feet, even with these feeling like some of the deepest lessons of my life.

Love You and if it feels right for you, I can’t wait to see you’

Marissa

Ps. Comment “yes” below if you want me to send you day and time I’ll be going live so we can hang out !

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Gosh it’s been a week since iv felt inspired to write.
Life has been happening and as you well know. It’s always for us.

It wasn’t until I came up to my room , lit a lime and vanilla candle and the thunder and rain started.

I decided to go through some pictures and get reconnected with my vision.

Next minute here I am typing away

This post Isn’t going to be for everyone of you, but most likely if your human you will resonate with something in my story about body image.
So stay with me if you feel called to:
If not.. I love you anyway

I had this photo shoot done about 6 months ago.
By my amazing photographer in NZ.
He had sent me a file with all the raw images, and I remember clicking through hundreds of them with self judgment After self judgment.
and in the end only choosing about 7 that I “APPROVED” OF. And yes this was out of hundreds.

And let me get clear it was not a reflection of his divine art in hos photography.
It was my personal expectations on myself and my body image:

Looking back now. The most significant thing i recall, is I had literally just completed a fitness body comp where I paced third so you would think I would have been content: but no of course not, because I was always so hard on myself to be and look a certain way.

I mean don’t get me wrong I was happy with how far I had come, but when looking at pictures, daym I was still carrying some serious judgement on myself along with huge insecurities.

This particual picture here was most significant, it’s one that I “hated” and deeply unapproved off.
why?
Well because clearly I had a story of comparison in my mind about my legs weren’t slim enough and my booty looked too big and , blah blah blah

Any how over the past 2 months I have been going deeper into my self worth. My self expectations and the unconscious comparison I put on myself.

Holy shooooot I have noticed the “stories” that I default to. Blended with the limitations I put on myself to try to look perfect (well as perfect as I believe i should be).

Here’s the thing though: the energy that it takes when you pick yourself apart, and judge yourself, manifests and multiplies : it bleeds into other areas of your life and generally nothing good will come of it.

Imagine what that energy could be used toward in your life for a more positive purpose!

For me Body image represents how you feel inside, it’s all projection. If you feel unworthy, unloved, unfulfilled and unappreciated. That is the external result you will get because those “feelings” generally lead to destructive behaviours.

But if you take the time to tap into something that allows you to feel self worth, self love: self confidence and self approval.. oh baby that will reflect externally too. and it will not only lift your vibration to a higher and happier frequency.
It will multiply and manifest into an energy that empowers and inspires others.

I know many of you may be thinking “for goodness sake Marissa , what are you going on about”
But hear me clearly:
This isn’t a share about what you see.
It is a share about what i have seen and noticed in myself and how it has impacted my life for over 36 years.

Disliking yourself and your body is so harmful to your life experience.

I wanted to be straight with myself and ask real questions like:
How can you possibly tap into your higher self with so many limitations??

And heres the irony , the one part of my body I was most emabarresed about since a child has been my booty.

I recall every single day getting dressed between the ages of 6 and 10 and looking in the mirror trying to make it look smaller by hiding it under a jumpber that i would wrap around my waste. Because it was so big .

IT STARTED AT AGE 6 I mean wtf right!

I remember I would go to the beach with friends and wear shorts thinking that would also hide it.

So why did I have this story at such a young age??

At the time I remember most of my friends were tall, skinny and had cute small bottoms. there were no kardashians or J los to make the big booty popular haha

It took control of my life for such a long period and even now if I don’t do a few squats or a hundred deadlifts a week, i freak out!

BUT today sitting here reflecting on all that I am and all that is. I am Finding true self acceptance in my skin. I am freaken falling in love with this picture.

I am ready to embrace all the woman that I am, inside and out (including this big booty hahaha)

My point is, it may not be your booty.
it might be your tummy
it might be under your arms
it might be your ankles
daym it might be your eyebrows.

But theres the thing.
The more you can accept what you have been gifted with, and instead of focusing on comparing to someone else.
You will truly lift the fog and start to feel the beauty that resides in every part of you.

MASSIVE SHOUT OUT TO ALL YOU WHO ARE CHOOSING TO EMBRACE ALL THE PARTS OF YOU THAT YOU SEE AS A FLAW, BUT ARE AWARE INFACT ARE IMPERFECTLY PERFECT!

I love you!
Marissa

Ps. What’s the one thing right now that you are focusing on with your body that consumes your energy??

Perhaps it’s time to focus on all the things you do love about yourself and see how that elevate the results in your life

#healthymindset #healthyheart #healthybody

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Yesterday I received an international package in the courier from my dad, which had a number of my personal “things” in it.

The crazy thing is , as I evolve into a more conscious human, I am so much less attached to “things” and more excited by experiences.

However there were a few “things” in that box, that hold huge significance in my journey this time round.

The most precious “thing” I found. was this picture of my baby kissing me. It was taken by my mother. It was the first time, my clever son got up on all fours and crawled.

The funny thing is I recall it like it was yesterday.
I had tried placing objects, toys, food, all sorts in front of him to get him to crawl earlier than this day.

But it waa none of the above that gave him the motivation to crawl. I was this moment in the pic under the mirror, where I was just chilling on the ground next to him chatting to Mum and dad, where my boo found his way over to my lips.

It was the human connection he was most craving that gave him the motivation to move forward!

It reminded me of so many things about how as a baby, they never overthink the “how”.
They don’t overthink how will i crawl
They don’t overthink how will I walk
How will I run
How will I jump.

They just see something they want to do and they freaken go for it.
They don’t fall over once and quit .
They keep going over and over and over until there is something that ignites a fire in their belly to propell them to feel enough motivation to just DO IT.

Isn’t it such a simple process when you really think about it as an adult!

One day you see something you want.
It ignites a firestorm in your belly so much that you think “fuck yes” I’m going to try that.
You try it.
And most likely it doesn’t work.

So this is the PINNACLE moment for most humans.
It’s at this point we forget how we learned to crawl, walk, run and jump.
And we Quit on ourselves.

But UMMMM HELLLLOOOO
It did not freaken happen over night!!!!!!

It took belief
It took determination.
It took discipline
It took courage
It took resilience
It took faith

Honestly, I invite you to think about it and ask yourself…

Is there something in your life right now that you know you desire SOOOO BAD???

Is it something you have tried before but it didn’t work.?

It’s that “SOMETHING” your soul is STILL calling you to do but you just don’t know because you lost belief in yourself??

Well sweetheart take this as a gentle reminder.

Today is a new day.
If you can accept it will take time and it may take a few hard falls. But if you don’t quit, imagine the possibilities that await you

Oh but your scared????
Because what if it doesn’t work????

Oh but honey… what if it does ??

LOVE you
Marissa XX

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Ok well maybe STOP Lying to yourself!
(Well most of you are lying and here’s why)

Underneath the layers.
EVERYONE wants to be liked, appreciated, admired and celebrated.
(And we should be when we are in our truth.)

Sadly it is true, it’s in our make up to seek approval from others and its NOT our fault.
Unfortunately as humans, we are wired that way from our adolences and this is why its so dam painful when we feel any sense of rejection
or abandonment.

You are conditioned and raised to “need” things and people.
and when you finally wake up to a living more consciously.
You have to do SOOO much internal work to reprogram your mindset & sub conscious.
Because in order to truly stand gracefully in your own skin. your own body and your own heart
you need to learn how to become more sacredly unapologetic by revealing what desires are truly burning deep inside of you.

Here’s the thing.
I recently committed to something that was a massive stretch for me in every way.
Financially
Time
Energy
Mentally and
Emotionally.

But it has been the best investment of my life.

You see I have deeply discovered that from such a young age I harboured so much insecurity.
I used to Make friends with so much ease.
But then if those friends had a difference of opinion .
I would be left feeling like I needed to agree with them or apologise for my view because I wanted to be liked and accepted.
I would hide behind the shadows of opinionated people.
I remember like it was yesterday, that I stopped speaking up first,
because I wanted to make sure I was agreeing with the masses.
I so often would hide what mattered to me, because I wanted to fit in. I wanted to be supported and I wanted to feel safe.
yes you got it.I wanted validation from others because thats what i defined as succeeding in my relationships.

So now that I have a new perspective on life. where I have done so much fucken internal work, and external work. heres what i have learned.

When you are seeking approval from others it becomes almost addictive. And this creates suffering because you value their beliefs, opinions and needs above your own.

There are way too many opinions and too many voices in this world. However, you don’t have to pay mind to everything?

Silence can be a gift, and you need wisdom to know when it is necessary. Sometimes, we have to let go of everything we hear and go on with our lives, not caring about what other people might think about us.

Ultimately, your opinion of yourself is the ONLY thing that should be able to make or break your day, your mood, your drive, your image and your life. How you see yourself will determine your limit and how much you get out of life.

I’m still a work in progress and far from perfect:
But EVERY day I commit to allowing my son and others around me to speak life into what’s matters most to them and why.

I may not always agree but I sure as heck am not the person to approve of their beliefs or values.
Basically if they do not align with mine.
I bless them and then I release them.

So if any of this as resonated for you. And your asking how you can begin to take more ownership of what you believe in and what matters most to you.

Here are three ways I practise how to stop seeking out approval. Externally.

Step 1: Ask Where Your Need for Approval Comes From

In many cases, a tendency to seek approval at work stems from something in your past. For example, were you taught to respect authority growing up? If so, you may feel uncomfortable expressing disagreement in work contexts. Did you struggle to make friends in school and develop a fear of being rejected? This may now be driving you to do whatever if takes to feel included and liked by your co-workers.

Reflect on how your childhood or early development may be contributing to your current approval-seeking behavior.

Step 2: Make Friends With Rejection

Think back to a time when you failed to meet expectations or disappointed someone. Maybe your boss asked you to completely re-do a project, or perhaps you forgot an important deadline. How did you recover from that slip-up? What did you learn as a result? In most cases, you were probably able to turn the situation around—and it likely helped you grow as a professional.

When you break it down, disapproval is a form of feedback—information you can use to improve and make your next performance even stronger. It also helps to also re-frame rejection as something positive. It means you’re moving forward and pushing limits, rather than just staying in your comfort zone.

Step 3. Embrace a Growth Mindset

When you prioritize learning and constant improvement, you free yourself from needing approval from others. Psychologist Carol Dweck found that individuals who viewed skill and ability as something to be developed over time, rather than innate and unchangeable, were most likely to achieve their full potential. Those with this “growth mindset” were more likely to challenge themselves than those with “fixed mindsets,” who took feedback as a sign of disapproval and failure.

By understanding that there is abundant room for growth, improvement, and success, you can wean yourself from the constant need for validation.

STOP BEING AFRAID TO SHOW UP AS YOU.

YOU ARE A MIRACLE , EQUALLY ENTITLED TO WLAK THIS EARTH AND SHINE BRIGHT LIKE A DIAMOND.

It is time to LIVE BY YOUR OWN VALUES BABY.

I LOVE YOU
Xx Marissa

P.s. Remember you don’t have to live in struggle. you can always transform the energy into your strength.

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Countless self education.
Massive financial investment.
A daily practise that served my highest good.
And many moments of falling flat on my face.

It was relentless grind.
Then it was heavy hustle.
Then it was hustling with more flow.

THEN ONE DAY an opportunity collided with my hard work. And baby, that’s what luck is!

You see with talent there has to come belief.
There Has to come willingness.
There Has to come Preparation
There Has to come radical aligned action
There Has to be continuous development.

You see when you meet someone or see someone you admire, respect, and honour for their success. It’s easy to forget to check in with yourself and ask.

What did it take for them to get there?
How did they choose to show up every day?
How did they choose to respond to life when it threw fire balls at them?
How did they get back up every time they got knocked down?

You see it’s interesting becauss we often use the analogy of an iceberg when we talk about success. The proverbial “tip of the iceberg” symbolizes the observable behaviors in a person as well as the things you can see, hear and touch, such as dress, language, food, music, architecture, signs of affection, etc.

And yet we don’t see the most significant part of the iceberg that is the 90% that is below the sea holding the tip of the iceberg above water.

This iceberg analogy is also the simple representation of our mind. The levels in which we have. conscious mind, which consists of all the mental processes of which we are aware, and this is seen as the tip of the iceberg. .., the subconscious mind and the unconscious mind is the primary source of human behavior.

And this my friends is why belief is so freaken important!
In fact what ever you choose to believe is what will create your life.
Your beliefs are everything!
They create your thoughts, your thoughts create your actions and your actions create your results!

So if the results you are getting in life right now are not where you want them to be. Let me invite you to ask yourself

What is it going to take for you to stop living in reasons?

Believe I get it.
When you take a risk on yourself.
It’s scary AF.
It’s so scary because self worth, self belief and self love is not something that comes easy to you.
It requires dedication, commitment and trust.

Today is today, tomorrow is tomorrow.
Which one is it that you choose to say
Hell YES I am allowed to try.
Heck YES I am capable to try.
Heck YES I am deeply excited to try.
Heck YES I believe in myself enough to make moves AND TRY .

I mean What’s the worst that can happen?

You fail because it doesn’t workout?
You have to try something different next time?
You might look like a fool and others will say, “I told you so”?

WHO THE FUCK CARES! JUST GO TRY.

It might start with 10 mins a day meditating.
It might start with a 10 min walk every Day.
It might start with filling out that application.
It might start with putting away $10 a day.
It might start with a kind text or call to someone special.

What ever it is…If you are not where you want to be, honey that should be enough motivation try find more belief.

I love YOU!
ALLLWWWAAAAYYS

Marissa

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YOU don’t really like who you are.
YOU focus on you faults, and weaknesses.
You are constantly criticising yourself.
That recording of everything you have done wrong is on repeat in your mind.

“You’re impatient”
“You blew your food plan yesterday”
“You’re still struggling with that addiction”
“You lost your shit yesterday”
“You’re a failure”

You wonder why you are not happy?

It’s because honey, you have this war going on in the inside.

BUT YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO GO THROUGH LIFE FEELING WRONG ABOUT YOURSELF.

My friend i am here to nudge you.
It’s time to quit focusing on your faults.
Quit over analysing your weaknesses!
Quit beating yourself up m, because your not where you thought you would be.

You have to learn to enjoy the GLORY that you are in right now!!

Yeh ok I get it.
There may be some areas where you need to improve .. but we all do.
There may be some weaknesses you see in yourself.. but we all do.

But here’s the thing. Being down on yourself isn’t going to make you be better!

See the biggest problem with not liking yourself is that you can not get away from yourself. EVER.

So isnt it time to stop telling yourself excuses that you will be better once you learn to control your mouth

It’s time to stop telling yourself excuses that you will be better once you kick that addiction.

It’s time RIGHT NOW to start giving yourself permission to be human, to accept your journey. Yo own your story. To call back your power and to STOP allowing your past to define you.

It’s too easy to feel bad.
It’s so easy to carry guilt.
It take courage and commitment to choose your forgiveness, self acceptance and happiness.

But believe it.
Once you start this process.
You will understand the true value of life.

How do I know?

Because I am human too.
I am just like you.
And I too have to make everyday a brand new day to choose love and light.

Know that you are not alone.
No matter what your colour.
No matter what your gender.
No matter what your age.
We are all in this together.

I SEE YOU
I FEEL YOU
I HONOUR YOU
I SINCERELY LOVE YOU.

Marissa

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Or you know anyone who could benefit from this, tag or share the love.

PPS. If you are tired of living with anxiety, or guilt and you are ready to own your story and re write a new one in 2018.

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Gosh since picking my son up from the airport I haven’t been creatively writing too much.

But tonight after saying good night to him, I felt this deep pull to hit the keyboard.

You see “feeling” stuff can be painful and that’s why you run, hide or fear it.

But there is a beauty in pain that even happiness cannot touch, because it shows you that you risked, you loved, and you let yourself feel.
The ironic thing about pain and struggle is it will always bring you to back to yourself.

But I get it.
Even though you think you know this.
You still fall into resistance when it comes to ALLOWING your emotions to rise.
There are moments of resistance.
There are thoughts of doubt,
There are emotions that feel overwhelming.
There are feelings of wanting to control it all and knowing you can’t.
But the beautiful thing about ALLOWING it all to surface. is that you no longer suppress any of it. AND instead of those emotions manifesting into matter of illness or something unhealthy. You release those emotions creating opportunity for the experience to do its full completion.

You see as humans we are so good at not ALLOWING our experiences to do its full completion.

Oh Yes sweetheart I see you.
You are SO good at pretending.
You are the one that walks out that front door with a mask on.
You are the one who EVERYBODY knows as the most positive person.
You are the one who while brushing her teeth can be gently crying.
You are the one who when in public can have the loudest roaring laughter.
You are in fact one of the best actor/actress you know, and it comes so effortlessly.

But the danger in all of this pretending.
Is it gets exhausting.
And it takes up space in your house.
Your body and your mind.

That is why emotional acceptance is so key to you achieving success in your life.
Emotional acceptance is truly a far better strategy than avoidance.
And that is why when you practice emotional acceptance, your willingness and ability to accept and experience, you acknowledge the negative emotion and deepen your life to the new meaning by only keeping positive emotion to move forward.

See here’s the thing.
There is SO much strategy behind success.
Success in business.
Success in relationships.
Success in happiness.
Success in money.
And any one of you can pick up and book , join a course , or search google and upskill your self.

But what a lot of you are missing in your journey to success, is the spiritual element.
Because regardless of your current “story” and beliefs. The universe can only respond to what YOU believe about yourself and your life.

And many of you often use the power of I AM against yourselves. It’s always a default of something negative. Which immediately blocks your flow. And by harbouring negative emotion.
Not only does This contribute to blocking your flow. It creates more negative vibration, struggle and pain.

The truth will always set you free and what follows the ‘I AM.. is what will hunt you down and make your reality.

It’s about an inner game equally balanced with strategy.

So why wait until 2018 to set yourself free from that emotional prison you live in and say yes to
DEEPENING YOUR LIFE TO A NEW LEVEL OF MEANING.

I love you!

MARISSA

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This is a powerful space that will offer you a clear pathway to support you to achieve success in almost anything you want in life by aligning strategy with spiritually.

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Pm me for more details , the tribe is growing by the day and the beautiful thing about this tribe. Is we all know we can go fast alone. But we know we can go far together.

Xxx M

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